Til Death do Us Part

Week 3 | Sermon Series “But I say…”

Lead Pastor Todd Kaunitz

Highlights:

  • A covenant is a binding holy agreement between two people before God.
  • The aim of a healthy marriage is friendship.
  • The means to a fulfilled marriage is not the absence of conflict or strife but the presence of the Gospel.
  • Marriage, at its core, is one of God’s primary ways to announce and display His glorious Gospel to the world.
  • The Gospel is the reference point of how to relate to our spouse.

Bible Text: Matthew 5:31-32

God uses marriage to articulate His unfailing, never-ending, inexhaustible love for us. God wants us to use our marriages as a living illustration of covenantal love. When the world looks at our marriages, they can witness the power of the Gospel in our lives.

In today’s text, Jesus is addressing the casual non-committal approach to marriage that was prominent in His day. This issue was because of a distorted interpretation of Moses’ instructions regarding marriage and divorce.

This is a difficult subject for many. For those who experienced the pain of divorce, I want you to be reminded of God’s grace. Divorce, while painful and not God’s plan is not the unpardonable sin.

If you are single, I am hoping to help you get ready for marriage. If you are single again, I want you to be prepared for what God may have for you in the future. To those who are contemplating dissolving their marriage because of any circumstance, I believe Jesus has a word for you today.

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What do we learn about marriage from Jesus?

  1. The foundation of a lasting marriage is a covenant – Marriage is more than an emotional sentiment, strong feeling, even deep love. It is entering into a relationship that is rooted in permanence and commitment. Covenant means to enter into a relationship with certain obligations that you vow to fulfill regardless of circumstances or what the other party does. A covenant is a binding holy agreement between two people before God.
  2. The aim of a healthy marriage is friendship – This is important because there should be more to marriage than just “sticking it out.” Survival is a pretty lame goal! God wants more for our marriages than just “not divorcing.” God wants us to thrive not just survive. The aim is friendship and intimacy.
  3. The means to a fulfilled marriage is the Gospel – We recognize our own sin, shortcomings, inability to live the way that God commands us to live. Still, God gives us grace, forgiveness, mercy, and love despite our failures. We continually fail to live up to our side of the relationship, but He always lives up to His end. He never ceases to love us or leave us. The Gospel is the reference point of how to relate to our spouse. They will fail us, hurt us, disappoint us, and sin against us, just like we act towards Jesus. And as we have received His grace, forgiveness, and love, we can then give it to our spouse. The means to a fulfilled marriage is not the absence of conflict or strife but the presence of the Gospel enabling us to forgive and love in the middle of difficulty.
  4. The vision for an impactful marriage is God’s mission – Marriage, at its core, is one of God’s primary ways to announce and display His glorious Gospel to the world. Marriage is not primarily about your happiness but about God’s mission. This is why Jesus emphasizes the covenantal nature of marriage. Marriage is meant to be a reflection of a greater union and greater covenant that He would ultimately establish with His church through Jesus.

 We need to abandon the world’s version of the “fairytale marriage” and embrace something lasting. In reality, there is only one fairytale marriage. It is full of pain, betrayal, and strife. Still, it is a story full of unfailing love, forgiveness, hope, and deepest intimacy. It’s the only story that can truly say, “and they lived happily ever after.” It is the love story of Jesus and His church! I want my marriage to tell that story. How about you?

Action steps:

  • Take responsibility for your marriage.
  • Adopt God’s view of marriage and believe He can create this for you.
  • Learn to love your spouse as Jesus loves you.
  • Get help, contact us for Counseling so we walk with you.

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