Why so Angry?

Sermon Series “But I say…”
Week 1: Why so Angry?
Lead Pastor Pastor Todd Kaunitz 


  • The aim of the Gospel is not just to transform your relationship with God but also your relationship with others.
  • There are 3 expressions of unrighteous anger: Simmer, Slander and Slaughter. Jesus says they should not be part of our lives.
  • Unresolved conflict with brothers and sisters in Christ, compromises our worship of Christ.
  • Reconciliation is not always possible to gain, but always possible to pursue!

Bible text: Matthew 5:20-26

How do you navigate through issues of everyday life? Anger, offenses, how to relate to enemies, can be tough to navigate. Jesus has these answers and more. The aim of the Gospel is not just to transform your relationship with God but also your relationship with others.

In this passage, Jesus is specifically dealing with personal relationships that are strained with other Christians. He refers to them as “Brother.” 

There are 3 expressions of unrighteous anger:

Simmer:  Anger grows in our hearts. In verse 22a, Jesus is describing this emotion with a word that is translated as a slow simmering over something that we refuse to let go. Every time we think or see what made us angry, all we dwell on is the thing that irritates us, frustrates us, or has offended us.  Ephesians 4:26-27 says ‘Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.’ How often do we allow the enemy to have strongholds in our life because of simmering anger in our hearts! So many marriages, families, and friendships have been destroyed by the cancer of anger simmering beneath the surface. Jesus is saying, ‘this is a serious issue!’ According to Jesus, this is a form of murder because it is the root of murder.

Slander: Anger erupts from our mouths. In this case, we verbally assault the person who made us angry by firing shots at them or behind them to others.

Psalm 140:3 speaks of this kind of angry person. “They make their tongue sharp as a serpent’s, and under their lips is the venom of asps.” Their tongue is dangerous & has the power to destroy! Some do this with outbursts and fits of rage…spewing mean and hateful things like a volcano spewing lava.  This is why Jesus says this is a type of murder and should not be a part of our lives.

 Slaughter: Anger destroys our relationships –  Vs. 22c. whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire. Jesus uses a term here that would have been the deepest insult. ”You fool” comes from a Greek word often used to call someone godless or wicked. It was to hold someone in contempt and treat them as a pagan rather than a brother. This was a way of writing them off completely. It was the highest form of offense and would absolutely slaughter the relationship. Notice the seriousness of this: the person who treats another person like this deserves eternal judgment.

How do we deal with anger in a righteous way?

We Recognize that broken fellowship with others hinders our fellowship with God.

Have you ever noticed that when there is friction and unresolved conflict, it’s hard to pray, read your Bible, share your faith? It is because it quenches the Spirit and it is inconsistent with the Gospel. How can we cling to the grace of God but not want to extend it to others? Peter warns husbands in 1 Peter 3:7 that when you have a fractured relationship with your spouse, God stops listening to your prayer. Broken fellowship with others hinders our fellowship with God.

Be sensitive to the Holy Spirit’s leadership and pursue reconciliation. We must respond to the prompting of the Holy Spirit and reconcile. Yes, it is worth the inconvenience. The reason some of us don’t experience the Holy Spirit’s power in our lives is because we have ignored His call to reconcile. We are to actively pursue reconciliation. Reconciliation is not always possible to gain, but always possible to pursue! See Romans 12:18. It takes two to have a healthy relationship but we are responsible for our part. How do we do this?

We own your failure quickly and in humility extend grace. Jesus is our judge. Time is of the essence, therefore, we must keep our accounts short by quickly owning our failures. The most Spirit-filled, powerful words of Kingdom life can be: “I am sorry! Will you forgive me? Also, “I forgive you…I forgive them…” Remember: Love keeps no record of wrong.

 Jesus is calling you to be reconciled to those you have hurt and who have hurt you. It may be in your marriage, friendships or family.

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